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The 3 traits of resilient people; & how you can cultivate them

According to the research of leading psychologist, Susan Kobasa, there are three elements that are essential to resilience:

CHALLENGE – Resilient people view a difficulty as a challenge, not as a paralysing event. They look at their failures and mistakes as lessons to be learned from, and as opportunities for growth. They don’t view them as a negative reflection on their abilities or self-worth.

What can you take from this?  Next time you face a set-back, rather than taking it personally, step back and look at what you can learn from the situation.  Can you do something differently next time?  Have you got new knowledge or skills that you didn’t have before?

PURPOSE – Resilient people have a clear sense of purpose for their lives and work; they have a compelling reason to get out of bed in the morning and to keep moving forward despite setbacks.

What does this mean? It means that if you have a clear idea of why you do what you do, you will be able to bounce back faster and more effectively. This sense of purpose acts as your North Star; when you get off track or lost, you simply remind yourself of your purpose and are able to navigate back on course.

CHOICE – Resilient people choose to spend their time and energy focusing on situations and events that they have control over. Because they put their efforts where they can have the most impact, they feel empowered and confident. Those who spend time worrying about uncontrollable events can often feel lost, helpless, and powerless to act.

The reality is that in life, and in the workplace, there are plenty of things that we can’t control.  If you spend time focussing on these areas, your resilience starts to dip and before long, you feel like all is lost.  So, start by acknowledging the things you can’t control, and actively look for the things that you can control and impact.  You will start to feel more empowered, energetic and impactful.

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